I have some interesting observations about the world (life) is not going well and perhaps it applies to anyone. There are ample times, we have said to ourselves –
‘Why this happens only to me?’Oh God!
‘Why people don’t listen or understand me?’
1. People don’t listen: As Francois La Rochefoucauld says, “The reason why so few people are agreeable in conversation is that each is thinking more about what he intends to say than about what others are saying, and we never listen when we are eager to speak.” The person speaking feels that people aren’t listening and it makes they are not being heard. At times, compelling them to talk louder. Does talking louder makes people like listen? They might listen less, a negative feedback will loop and this leads to anger, quarrel, fights because we forgot to respect and acknowledge someone. This might be popular seen in schools and college classroom’s. It reminds of a popular a scene from Bollywood movie ‘Taal’ starred Aishwarya Rai, Akshaye Khanna and Anil Kapoor directed by showman Subhash Ghai – Manav (Akshaye Khanna) says to his uncle ‘If breaking the glass and raising voice makes truth then I have broken seven glasses, Makes me seven times more righteous?’. The four minute scene is worth a million watch.
It’s amazing to see change in behavior of people when someone truly listen them.
2. People don’t read: Among the ‘Ten Commandments’ in Bible, the sixth says, ‘Thou shalt not kill’. Most people (Christan, Jewish or Islamic) know about it. But truly speaking, there isn’t much reduced in killing. This indicates either we don’t read the things we claim we do, or we read them with incompetence, preventing ideas in the book from changing behavior.
These above two theory concludes that – we can receive more if we read things carefully, this will help to recognize that we were looking for wrong thing. Lets avoid the assumptions that we are listening and reading more on web, books and others, may be its an illusion. It is said that, the person with more authentic listening and reading will be happier, more connected and more successful at achieving things that matter. If you are in trouble ask yourself, Did I listen to others? Did I read it thoroughly?
Courtesy: Scott B